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TO THE BOYS WHO WANT TO BECOME MEN AND LEAVE A LEGACY

The family is one institution that is looked down upon in recent years. We have the dad who is not responsible, and we have the mom who abandons her children for some job. We call it modernity. Everything has been turned upside down. Apologies for not having a catchy introduction I like to get to the point. 

What is the problem with today's family system and where did it start? It's high time folks who are in their 20s take marriage and the family serious. If you are a boy or girl, and you're in your 20s (early or mid) here's your chance. The probability of you not knowing anything about marriage and the family is quite high. You did not have a father at home, you did not have a mother who loved that much, and you know nothing beautiful about the family. Some even were brought up in a broken home. had bad examples as role models and are repeating that cycle.

Know this, when there are divorces from every marriage in your family, it is not a generational curse. Don't go about drinking Borges oil by the command of some pastor to fix a "generational curse." Get yourself together and learn about marriage. Nobody has cursed your family and nobody has time to.

To the men who want to leave a legacy, I bet you want to get married and have children of your own. The family is the most disregarded institution from the 20th century up to date. People hate the family. They don't say it, but we see it in how they treat it. People do not know how crucial the family system is.
The family is the foundation of nations. Without the family, there would be no communities, there would be no nation.  A man and a woman will have to come together to start that. When the family is left wrong, when the position of the man is abandoned, the family becomes weak. When the position of the woman is abandoned in regards to the family, it becomes weak.

When we have a corrupt society, what does it mean? It's simple, we have bad families. Bad families make bad nations. When the family is led wrong, the nation is automatically led wrong. I'm Ghanaian and so many times I've heard people throw insults at leaders, especially the president. When people insult the president I go like, "we raised that guy and we put him in office." 

A legacy starts with the right mindset and it starts today. Today matters, yet most of us do not treat it as such. Get a girl you wish to wife, make your thoughts known to her, work your butt off, get to her house and ask for her hand. STOP seeing her under the mango tree! Go to her house. Have good intentions for her. That's how it starts. You want to be a good leader, you want to honour her, you want to treat her like the woman she is.

When the dating process is done wrong, men, your marriage will be done wrong, and your children will be raised wrong. These children will become men and women and have families of their own and will impact their children with the only thing they know about the family which they took from you. Imagine if all they took was chaos. And it does not end. No, it is not a generational curse, it is because you do not care about your future family enough to prioritize today and make yourself a good man.

You cannot give what you don't have. You cannot say what you don't know. Learn, practice, lead. 

Do you want a better world, a better place to call home on earth? Then raise your families right. You don't want to do that wrong. I know this blog does not give all the answers, but that is your duty. Find them out.
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